So I was on reddit the other day and one of the threads was “Why are you single?”
The following two, I think, encompass my situation the most
- "I get to know people to date them rather than dating to get to know them."
- "Shyness around girls I like. I basically shut down despite being able to have flirty conversations with other girls. Problem is, I’m not interested in those other girls."
The solution to the second is to just practice—talking to more and more girls until I’m just used to it. I guess the simple answer to the first one would be to just date someone to get to know them…but I’m gonna have to think about that one a bit more.
I do often imagine how nice it’d be to date or to have a companion/girlfriend, but there are so many other personal, academic and ultimately more important things that I need to accomplish in my life right now.